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I'm only attracted to guys, and not at all to girls.

If you have only ever persistently experienced attractions only for guys you likely feel in your own gut that you're gay.  A lot of people who come to this site are from many different countries in the world.  Knowing that this is your sexual orientation may mean different things for different people depending on whether gay people are well accepted in your culture and in your own community. 

Regardless of where you live, it will be really important to be able to accept yourself.  Consider all the good things about yourself, the good qualities, the values you hold, the things you believe in, the ways you love and care for other people.  None of this changes because of your sexual orientation.  You can find a core of strength and of goodness inside of yourself and learn to celebrate that and grow in that - no matter what other people's opinions about gay people are.  You aren't defined by your sexuality and you don't need to feel ashamed of your sexuality.  The more you can learn to love yourself, just as you are, the stronger you will be and able to make a positive contribution with your life. 

Once you come to terms with your sexuality, you do need to make some decisions about how you will live in the future:

- It will benefit you to think through what kinds of boundaries you will have around your sexual behaviour.  These may be informed by your beliefs or values.  It is important to value yourself and to guard your heart.  Don't give yourself or your body away too easily to someone else outside of a long-term commitment.  Otherwise you may just feel used and empty.

- You may want to think through whether you are or are not open to being in a committed sexual partnership.  If you are, what kind of person do you want to spend the rest of your life with?  If you are not, how will you experience intimacy and family (which is a need for all of us - whether we are married or not)?  What kind of friendships will you cultivate?  Where you will experience community?  All of these are important questions to consider and to be intentional about so that you can live your life in a manner that is consistent with our beliefs and values.

Gay people have the same opportunity as straight people to live sexually responsible lives.  We encourage you to be well informed, thoughtful, and mature in the decisions you make.